You can probably sit here and list me a million reasons why you can’t do this or that.
You care too much about what people, friends or family might think. That’s only because you have such a kind heart, and that’s okay! But here’s the thing, if you allow yourself to be a certain way because you become immune to do what others’ think is the right way, then you will never know what it feels like to be the true you.
It’s time to stop living the life for others, and start doing you! Stop caring so much what other’s might think if you decide to go left when they’re all going right. It’s time to stop giving a F**k and start living the life you want.
Your friend or loved one likes a certain kind of music, food, or idea, it doesn’t mean that you have to too. The beauty of having differences with people is individuality. Imagine if we lived in a world that everyone liked the same thing, kind of boring huh? You don’t always have to agree on a certain topic because you’re too afraid of the outcome.
Once you start speaking your true thoughts or feelings about something, you see how being authentic is truly pleasing. But, don’t be rude about it either. There is a difference between being a straight up ass and someone who is speaking their mind kindly. If someone can’t handle that you don’t agree or ‘like’ the same thing, then you might need to reconsider that person. If they are truly accepting of who you are, then they would love your straightforwardness and embrace it. Overcome the fear of speaking up, and see how empowered you feel.
No matter how many things you change about yourself including habits, style or the things you talk about because you want that person to like you, it will never be enough. It will never have an ending because you’re always striving to be something versus just being. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone that will not agree or like something you do or think. It will get tiring to the point that you just break. So, just stop trying.
How about you shift that energy to bringing out the more natural version of yourself? Once you start actualizing the true you, those who really are your friends will accept. Remember, you shine brighter when you stop trying and you just are.
Having the quality of caring so much is beautiful… to a certain point. If you begin to care too much where you become numb about your emotions and feelings, you will get run over a lot. You will lose sight of yourself because you won’t be listening anymore to your inner voice. Instead, you will carry a life that is led by others. Who are you then?
Don’t allow anyone even family or the most loved ones ever make you feel ashamed for being you. Stop caring so much where it becomes unhealthy. It won’t and never be good if you don’t allow yourself to feel and actualize on it. It’s all about balance.
See, you can care enough about a person that you are able to understand why they feel the way they do. There you both find the willpower of accepting those differences and move past it positively. However, it’s trouble when you care too much about a situation that it overtake’s you to the point that you just give up on it. It can go in different directions. Push someone away, you’re not communicating, you just let people drag you around because it’s just easier or you don’t care anymore. Don’t get to that point. Don’t get run over. Stand up and be you!
No one has any right to tell you what you have to do with your life. They aren’t the ones waking up in your body. They aren’t the ones feeding you with your own hands. They aren’t the ones breathing for you. You are the pilot of your body, mind, and life. You are the only person in control of what unfolds before you. If you decide to steer off and do something crazy because it was calling to you, then good for you. What happen’s next is on you. It could be a positive ending or bad one. Either way, it’s in your hands.
There will be countless of people in your life that will always give you an opinion about your actions. The point is whatever opinion they give you the choice of reacting is in your control. Once you start visualizing what you really want to do, and you feel it right there in your gut, you fly!
When we are young, time seems to be going by so damn slowly. That’s because we aren’t doing so much. Most of the time it’s playing with our school friends, or going to school. But once you start reaching the young adult age, you start doing sh*t in your everyday life. Next thing you know, you have already had five jobs, moved three different occasions and have partied more times than you can count. Life is going by so fast for you at this point where it’s getting pretty scary.
Are you doing what you need to be doing? But, what is it that you need to be doing? What you should be doing is what you really want to do. We will always have time to do everything that we want but only while we are still living. You can probably watch the news and see all the miserable things that are happening. You just never know what tomorrow will bring. Noting that tomorrow is a huge question mark, that should be enough reason to encourage anyone to get up and do what you gotta do.
Live. Go travel. Go to that audition. Reach out to that old friend. Start checking off your bucket list. Concur it all. In summary, just stop giving a f**k, and start living the life you want to live.